Or be aggressive with the Beta men and let them know he doesn’t need to make the case first, the verdict is in and you’re ready to get to the dating.

This might not be the way you like your romance to go, but you do what you gotta do.

For Alpha men, it’s relatively easy, especially if he’s blessed with good looks.

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Now, this isn’t to say that there aren’t wishy-washy guys out there who will just pine away and never move out of the “getting ready” zone into actually doing something because of their fear of rejection, and so they’d rather sit in limbo rather than risk being turned down.

Some guys have serious self-esteem issues that are very difficult to get past.

” Yes, they are– but dates in the modern age are typically about getting to know someone within the framework of a romantic and/or sexual attraction that’s already been established.

I don’t think too many dates happen now unless there’s an actual spark or potential spark.

A Beta man hasn’t yet had the opportunity to show off the qualities that he hopes you’ll be interested in hanging that framework on.

Once he’s shown those to you, that’s when he’ll actually “make the move” and ask you out for a real date.

With Beta men, the pre-date period takes much longer and involves showing you aspects of his personality that you’ll (hopefully) find attractive. You may be asking myself: making an effort to try and spend time with you, then odds are damn good that he’s a Beta man who’s trying to show you things about him that you’ll find attractive so when he finally does ask you out, he has a much better shot of you saying yes than he did when you first laid eyes on each other.

Assuming you have some interest in him too, or even just mild curiosity, allow him the opportunity to make his case.

I think that’s why Beta men will typically try to steer things more towards nebulous, “getting to know each other” activities as opposed to a formal date right away.

But wait a minute, aren’t dates all about “getting to know each other?

We can look at the process this way: there’s the pre-date time period, and the dating time period.